You’re engaged, and you want to invite everyone you know to celebrate your big day! We get it. However, it’s not likely you, your future spouse, and each of your parents will be able to invite everyone you want.
So, how do you determine who makes the guest list and who gets cut? It’s your wedding, so the final decision is, ultimately, up to you.
But there are some tips to make the process easier. Here’s some advice for couples looking for ideas to make their wedding guest list work:
This may sound like putting the cart before the horse, but the number of people you want to invite will dictate what size wedding venue you book. Say your initial or even final list includes 300 people, but the wedding venue you already put a down payment on only holds 200.
If this is the case, you’ll have a hard time narrowing down your guest list to fit the space. Avoid the hassle by creating a preliminary guest list right away. This way, when you’re browsing perfect venues, you’ll know exactly which ones will accommodate your guests and which you can rule out.
Create Guest List Categories and Prioritize Them
Your preliminary guest list will likely evolve as your engagement goes on. The idea is to have a rough estimate when choosing venues, but your list will change as you narrow down your list of attendees.
To get there, categorize your guest list into family, friends, colleagues, parents’ friends, etc. Next, prioritize which groups are a must invite and which groups, or people within a group, would be nice — but not necessary — to have at your wedding. Obviously, both immediate families are invited. Your grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins are invited. But do you invite your cousins’ kids or their kids’ children? That may be where you want to draw the line.
How about friends? Longtime family friends are a must. You and your future spouse’s closest friends are a shoo-in as well. However, your colleagues, your parents’ colleagues, and parents’ friends you don’t know well may not make the list. And, that’s OK.